Going into Thanksgiving week when we have a child or other loved one with an eating disorder or other behavioral health issue, can bring a range of emotions that are not festive or joyful. To say the least. My heart is with each of you as you face the challenges that pile up higher than a steaming bowl of mashed potatoes.
Not only will there be family, focus on food, irregular schedules…there will also be the fears, sadness, hopelessness and despair. They’re all coming to the holiday, uninvited but they’ll be joining in and probably all have seats at the table. It can be hard to believe that healing can happen when we see vast amounts of evidence to the contrary.
In my previous article about Nourishing Hope for Recovery I shared how Dr. Ralph Carson of ERC and Shannon Kopp presented on, the neuroscience of having HOPE. One of the keys they talked about for having hope (which is vital for recovery) is to have ‘belief’ in recovery. This can seem almost pollyanna-ish when the evidence to the contrary is so present in every moment of the day. And yet, Dr. Carson talked about what happens in our brains when we can have some sense of belief in recovery being possible. Not only do our loved ones need to have belief, family caregivers do too. That can be the difference between ‘Impossible’ and ‘I’m Possible.’
A big component is having someone to believe in us and support us—that article is coming soon. First, to help parents and other family caregivers be able to believe in the possibility of recovery, I’m sharing the wisdom and comforting words from “Luminous Momma” who shares her writing super powers with Hope Network, LLC.
Belief; In Hope, Recovery, our Child, Ourselves, by Luminous Momma
Now that we have come to know the importance of hoping for our child’s recovery, it is time to step in a ‘believing of this possibility’ for our struggling loved one. This step is not passive, it must be active and dynamic.
As we hold the hope high, we too must believe true healing will come. We must surround ourselves with ‘hope-full’ words and persons, know that all the heartache we see is not who our child is. They are struggling with an eating disorder. They are not the eating disorder.
Have Faith Momma.
Holding the hope high, believing that healing can happen, holding your struggling loved one capable with the right level of support, to come into their own ‘happy and healthy’ can make all the difference. In the way they heal. In the way your family comes into their healing.
Believing that if a certain type of treatment is not working that there is a NEXT for your child.
Choosing a team of providers who also hold hope for your child.
Believe in your child’s healing is an important piece of this puzzle of recovery.
At one point in our journey, I learned some of the treatment team as well as our insurance company came to label my child as CHRONIC. We all know how dangerous labels can be, in our case this label could be deadly. See, when your providers begin to slowly yet visibly have less hope, less options for your child, less for your child period—you know Momma, it’s time.
Time to change the story. Time to find providers who believe in the possibility of recovery for your loved one. Time to find new spaces of support. And they are there Momma. Promise.
Do not stay in this sad story, begin a new chapter. A beautiful one where healing and happy are possible for all of your family.
I chose a new narrative. A new chapter full of hope and healing and joy and peace.
Holding the hope for your new chapter Momma.