Good morning dear readers, thank you for being here, I so appreciate staying connected this way. Thank you to those of you who send me notes after reading my weekly newsletter, it always makes me smile and feel more connected to you. It’s so important now, more than ever for us to find creative ways to stay connected when we cannot be together.
As you know if you’re a family caregiver or a clinician, right now things are really rough for families supporting a loved one at home with an eating disorder. This quarantine and isolation is hard for everyone and adding a life threatening eating disorder on top of it has taken the challenges to a new level.
I cannot fathom managing life with a child with an eating disorder on top of/during/in addition to this pandemic. Covid schooling is one thing, ED support as your home becomes a PHP program or a residential care facility is another.
A big hug would probably help right about now and I wish I could give you one. This is tough stuff. Thus the need for even more self-care and staying grounded and centered is even greater. Amping up self-care can make the difference between suffering and enjoying life. And it can make the difference for loved one’s in recovery. I’d love to hear which of these 3 grounding tools helped you cope and hope.
My 3 Tips for Being Grounded During the Pandemic
1. SUPPORT can come from anyone who will listen without judging or offering unasked for advice. It is okay to ask for help. Actually, it is vitally important and is a sign of strength not weakness. Let’s just get that straight. I know, I stunk at it – still can stink at it. 😉 We can all do better at asking for help, people want to help. You’ve likely seen me suggest making a list of things that people can help out. So you don’t have to try and think when a friend, neighbor or family member asks what they can do to help. Make that list. Laundry, driving, errands, listening, watching a funny show or movie virtually together. Granted, this gets much more complicated when we cannot be within 6′ of those we are not living with during the pandemic. Creativity will come in handy here. Support can mean hiring a coach – yes I do free 30 minute consultations – call me. Or it might mean hiring a therapist to help get some DBT skills training or help with anxiety which can be crippling when a child has a serious chronic illness.
2. BREATHE right now and often. This gives you a pause to be present and is so life giving for you. I did this each time I visited the bathroom, walked from room to room, before any appointment and before each time I spoke with a clinician or insurance company and before answering the phone when a friend called. When we breathe we calm our central nervous system. This increases our capacity to do hard things.
3. MOVE. Find any joyful movement that helps get your blood flowing and the oxygen waking you up. When we move in a joyful way it helps our mind, body and spirit so much more than forcing ourselves to “do exercise” or “workout” doing something we don’t enjoy. What is something you used to do that you can modify for this time of quarantine? Or even after the quarantine is over? Can you walk outside? Can you ride a bike or dance in your kitchen with your kids? How’s that for a good ‘ol “take that ed” for reclaiming the joy in your kitchen space? 😉