Trusting Yourself as an Eating Disorder Caregiver, by Becky Henry, CPCC
You may have noticed there was no newsletter last week...so many of us are just trying to keep putting one foot in front of the other in the midst of this ongoing pandemic and societal mayhem. In addition to all of that and an October 16th snowfall, I was creating a...
Struggling and Self Compassion
Even with a pretty conscious self grounding practice, it’s been a challenge to say the least to not be on an emotional rollercoaster this year. Right? We are each struggling in our own ways. For those who follow my work you know I’m constantly beating the drum of self...
Weight Stigma During Weight Stigma Awareness Week
On the plus side (see what I did there?) I love irony. 😉 As Maya Angleou said, “When we know better, we do better.” As a teen, I bought the belief that being thin was important and dieting, food restriction and exercise to compensate for what I ate were what I...
Self Care; Choosing What to Focus On, by Becky Henry, CPCC
As I was looking past the pink post it notes all over my windows to keep the birds from meeting an untimely death on my patio down below, I was reminded that we get to choose what we focus on. I’m training myself to look past those pink pieces of paper and see the...
Compassion Might Help Caregivers Too, by Becky Henry, CPCC
In the midst of a global pandemic, wildfires and too many more horrible things to list, babies are being born. The despair, sadness and fear are opposed by emotions of joy, hope and beauty. Both can exist. “Both, and” is an expression I learned many long years ago in...
How to Help Adults Who Don’t Want Help with Eating Disorders, by Becky Henry, CPCC
If you love, care about someone who is in recovery from an eating disorder, you may be feeling helpless, overwhelmed, afraid, upset, and more. And if your loved one is over 18 you might fear there is nothing you can do to help them with recovery from one of these...
Hopelessness Help, by Becky Henry, CPCC
Even if you don’t watch the news, we all know someone who is in some way affected by the plethora of problems plaguing the people of this planet. Sorry, not sorry about the alliteration (micro moment of joy is what that is). Between the wildfires, hurricanes,...
Pandemic Ponderings & Paradox Perspectives, by Becky Henry, CPCC
On the one hand, I cannot fathom how it’s already the end of August and on the other hand, February feels like it was 5 years ago. Both feel true at times. It’s in this uncertainty and timelessness where some of us with our basic needs met are noticing the juiciness...
9 Reasons for Caregivers of those with Eating Disorders to have Hope Now, by Becky Henry, CPCC
What does having hope have to do with helping families impacted by eating disorders? And why did I call my business “Hope Network, LLC” when the data is so dire? Hopelessness is a common feeling family caregivers of those with eating disorders report when they first...
How Caregivers Can Use Values to Make Decisions, by Becky Henry, CPCC
“Who do you be?” That is a question most coaches are familiar with even though it is improper English. Gaining clarity on who we are and what matters to us gives us insight into not only ourselves but gives us insight and clarity on our values. What does this have to...
Adapting to Living with Eating Disorders During a Pandemic, by Becky Henry, CPCC
Learning to live in the new reality of having a child with an eating disorder is a process of acceptance that takes a while. And doing that in the middle of a worldwide pandemic adds extra layers of complications and distress to your already mile high cake of chaos....
Can we Be Okay if Our Kids Don’t Recover From an Eating Disorder?, by Becky Henry, CPCC
After listening to this interview https://youtu.be/wN_uzn9ct8w of Carolyn Costin today about Authenticity I got to thinking about what might be possible if parents and other family caregivers were able to embrace this concept of non-judgment or impartiality about...
Radical Acceptance for Parents of those with Eating Disorders, by Becky Henry, CPCC
It’s especially difficult to accept what is when we don’t like what the reality is. Our world is currently giving us plenty of examples every day of difficult realities to accept. Dozens of opportunities arise to practice this acceptance when we are the family member...
COVID19 & Eating Disorders Caregiving; Extreme Self Care Hacks
Between preparing for my first training course to teach other's to do the work I do and fine tuning the webinar series Ibbits Newhall, Wendy Wright and I are creating for families via Recovery Roadmap Specialists and learning how to stay sane and safe during a...
Hot Holidays and Healthy Hints for Helpers (aka: Caregivers)
Yes, I like alliterations. Plus I have a pal who purposely puts punny, pithy platitudes in her prose that are positively pleasing.. 😉 So it’s HOT - at least in the Northern Hemisphere. And I’m of Norwegian descent and my body tells me to go look for a snowbank to...
Confidence While Caregiving a Child with an Eating Disorder, by Becky Henry, CPCC
Much like an athletic coach, part of my role is to remind my clients (much like the players in a sport) what they’re in the game for. What the end goal is. Staying focused on the goal when confidence is eroded is challenging. What gets in the way of being confident...
Rescuing a Loved One with an Eating Disorder, by Becky Henry
Shift is happening in our world. Big time. And those with eating disorders and other mental illnesses are struggling big time. It's a hard time that is making it harder to be in recovery. Watching a child with a life threatening illness is brutal. No way around it....
Mama!
Momma, Mom, Mommy, Mother, Mama...no matter how you say it or spell it, we have each other’s backs and one another’s children’s backs. Thank you to all who have reached out to check on my safety as my hometown is (as are many of yours) under attack by extremists who...
Tips for Being vs. Doing During the Pandemic
We’re being bombarded with messages to accomplish great things during this pandemic all while processing and coming to terms with the facts about the various ways our lives have changed. Many people have shared that life in general has begun to feel like some strange...
Pandemic Losses; 6 Steps Toward Coping & Hoping Now, by Becky Henry, CPCC
Well, here we are...another weekend of this pandemic. Yes, it’s the weekend—the days do seem to run together when leaving home is a rarity and going out with friends on the weekend is a thing of the past. About a month ago I shared about the global grief we’ve all...
A Mother’s Day Gift
Describing the love a mother feels for her children is easier said than done. You see those of us who have had the honor of becoming moms/mums never had any idea of the intensity, immensity and unreasonability of the love we would feel for these humans. Seriously, no...
Caregivers, Be True to Yourselves
The musical accompaniment rolling through my brain while writing this is of course, “True To Myself” by Ziggy Marley. You can enjoy a video of this song here on YouTube if you would like to listen while you read about listening to our instinct, our gut, our intuition...
Caregiving in the Time of Covid; 3 Tips for Being Grounded, by Becky Henry, CPCC
Good morning dear readers, thank you for being here, I so appreciate staying connected this way. Thank you to those of you who send me notes after reading my weekly newsletter, it always makes me smile and feel more connected to you. It's so important now, more than...
It’s Okay to not feel Okay; Caregiving During Covid 19, by Becky Henry, CPCC
This past week was/is a rough one for so many Americans with the ongoing quarantine and so much unsettling news. The vast array of conflicting news stories and the unending uncertainty have begun to take a toll on a lot of us. Usually I get my newsletter written on...
Celebrating Holy Week During a Pandemic, by Becky Henry, CPCC
As we are in this holy week for so many who observe various religious traditions, this quarantine/lock-down/shelter-in-place takes an even bigger toll on our inability to gather with some or all of our loved ones. We are all experiencing some level of grief whether...