10 Tips on Shame for Effective Eating Disorder Caregivers ~ by, Becky Henry
The unspoken message to parents of kids with eating disorders has long been, “You’ve done enough damage already, please get out of the way.” Most people in the field would now say in 2019 that this is an antiquated, out-dated, harmful and inaccurate message. Most....
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Meant To Be Moments at Airports, by Becky Henry, CPCC
In the, “you can’t make this stuff up” category or as my friend and fellow author, Mary Treacy O’Keefe would call it, “a meant to be moment” I had an encounter at the Birmingham airport on the way home from presenting with Carlus Houston at the University of AL Eating...
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Independence, Freedom, Boundaries & Eating Disorders Treatment
Every single parent with whom I’ve spoken over the past 16 years who has a child with an eating disorder would like for that child to have freedom and independence from that eating disorder. Hopefully your Independence Day weekend celebrations have allowed you some...
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Family Caregiving of a Loved One with an Eating disorder, by Becky Henry
Family caregiver, your heart is soooo big and your instinct is to come from a place of love and service, wanting your loved one to have the easiest, quickest, least painful path to recovery. Today though, you’ll learn that putting their needs first, before your own,...
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Eating Disorders Caregivers and Shame
Parenting kids who have a propensity to feel worthless and unlovable is not easy to say the least. Each week in the online group support that I facilitate we have a topic that we use to illuminate the challenges family caregivers of those with eating disorders are...
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Self-Sacrifice in Caregiving
Speaking on the phone with a family caregiver the other day talking about their overwhelm and exhaustion, they were telling me that their self-sacrifice was draining. I asked them one of my favorite questions: “How much of your time is spent taking care of you?” They...
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Walking the Talk of Self-care When It isn’t Convenient, by Becky Henry, CPCC
Irony amuses me. Promoting self-care for caregivers is what I do daily. And I give it a valiant effort to walk my talk. Well this past week I was told that even though the respiratory virus I had for two weeks had run its course and I was feeling better, I needed to...
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Vigilance in Eating Disorders Caregiving- By, Becky Henry, CPCC
Many of us as family caregivers have lived this polarizing, highwire, balancing act of vacillating between hypervigilance and being complacent. For the first year or so of being a family caregiver of someone with an eating disorder, the vigilance to keep our loved one...
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4 Tips for Eating Disorders Caregivers to Learn How to set Boundaries Now – by, Becky Henry, CPCC
When a family member is diagnosed with an eating disorder and we’re frantically trying to keep them alive and find a good fit for treatment, often the last thing on our minds is setting boundaries to keep them AND us, safe. Most families tell me that they’ve been...
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Am I enabling my child’s eating disorder? By Becky Henry
Every day in the USA at least 23 people die from eating disorders. Full disclosure, I dislike the term “enabling” a lot. And it is the 8th topic in my HUG Kits because this is a real issue that families are facing. The line between being a supportive caregiver or...
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Self-care Tips for Eating Disorders Caregivers to Use Now, by Becky Henry, CPCC
Your loved one is in a crisis and needs a parent/family caregiver who is in top form and ready to provide loving support without erasing your own dear self. It may feel greedy and selfish to do things for yourself. I get that-it seemed that way to me when I was in...
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Residential Eating Disorders Treatment; 3 Tips for Family Caregivers
by, Becky Henry, CPCC Becky Henry Founder of Hope Network Eating Disorder Family Support Family caregivers of those with eating disorders have often told me that it broke their hearts to take a child or other loved one to a Residential Treatment Center (RTC). Often...
read more Communication Tips from HUG Kit, by Becky Henry, CPCC
When family members of those with eating disorders come to me in distress, one of the top topics on their minds is how to communicate with both their loved one and with the treatment team. Sadly, the treatment team has typically not met us when we were not in crisis...
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HUG Kits Education Topic Preview, by Becky Henry
When a loved one is diagnosed with a serious illness, some of us find we run and hide and pretend it’s not happening. Some of us will be frozen with fear, some will want to learn everything possible. And I’m sure there are dozens of other responses. What I know is...
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HUG Kits Oxygen Mask Sneak Preview
In case you missed my newsletter on St. Patty's Day, you can catch it here on my blog. As we get closer to the launch of the HUG Kits on May 9th, I'm sharing tips from each of the 10 topics covered in the HUG Kit Guidebooks that accompany the 10 videos and the...
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Support Tips from the HUG Kits
Spring is here in the Northern Hemisphere after a long, rough winter for so many! We just arrived back in snow-covered Minnesota a few days ago and had the joy today of experiencing the first 50 degree F (above zero) day here on the tundra! While it is a joyful thing...
read more 3 Tips to Notice Emotions During Caregiving by, Becky Henry
After speaking at Rosewood Outpatient (thanks Dena Cabrera!) in Tempe, AZ with staff and parents about including parents in treatment and having shift happen, I’m back in California...now in the Central Coast Region. We’ve always heard it’s fun to drive the entire...
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Carolyn Costin’s Story, by Becky Henry
A true pioneer in the eating disorders field, Carolyn Costin generously shared her story so you can have hope. Please enjoy her revised chapter which will soon be in the Revised Second Edition of my book, Just Tell Her To Stop: Family Stories of Eating Disorders....
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January Blahs, 3 Tips for Coping Now
Like it or not, the December holidays are over. And you have somehow survived, hopefully more or less intact. Many families of those with eating disorders and other mental health challenges are still reeling and trying to help loved ones. Many of you have had college...
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Has the Most Wonderful Time of Year Got You Down?
Does it seem like for everyone else, the holiday season is a time for peace, love and joy? Sometimes we believe that it’s perfect, love, light, fun, joy, sunshine and rainbows for everyone else. Usually that’s not true. For many caregivers it’s the most stressful,...
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4 Holiday Coping Tips for Caregivers to Use Now
For the majority, the holiday season is a time for family and joy. However, for those with eating disorders, it can be one of the most stressful times of the year. Thanksgiving, which typically revolves around food (like my favorite Scandinavian treat - Lefse) and...
read moreHow to Stop Rescuing Your Loved One in Recovery – Lessons from a Mamma Bear – by Becky Henry
When caregivers have our oxygen masks on and have been practicing loads of self care, we can be like the momma bear in this video who patiently waits for and believes in her cub. It’s so tempting when our loved ones in recovery are heading back down the...
read moreFEAR: Six Tips to use NOW as an Eating Disorders Caregiver
Parents and other caregivers of those with eating disorders you have so many valid fears to cope with daily. Simply taking the leap to get a loved one into treatment can bring on so many fears: What modality is best? Which treatment program should I...
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Good News from Becky Henry’s World
In case you missed my email news that went out today, here are the latest updates! So many exciting things happening here at Hope Network I could spend all day filling you in, here I’ll just share 4 of them: (feel free to contact me if you want to hear more) ●...
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Hope for Hopeless Parents of those with Eating Disorders – by Becky Henry
Hope for Hopeless Parents of those with Eating Disorders – by Becky Henry by wpstylist | Sep 16, 2018 | Uncategorized | 0 comments Hello parents & professionals, Parents and professionals alike tell me that parental distress is a major challenge during a child’s...
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