Self Soothing Techniques, by Intern Anna 

Self Soothing Techniques, by Intern Anna 

Today’s blog post is brought to us by my summer intern Anna. She shares her insights on how both a person in recovery and their family members can soothe ourselves during the many moments of distress. ~ Becky Henry, CPCC Self Soothing Techniques, by Intern Anna ...

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Reducing Suffering this Mother’s Day- by, Becky Henry, CPCC

Reducing Suffering this Mother’s Day- by, Becky Henry, CPCC

Big hugs to you on this day that can be such a mixed bag. It makes me think of the metaphorical boxes we put ourselves in.  What boxes do we put ourselves into you ask? Victim? Rescuer? Caregiver? The Problem? The Solution? Bad/Good Parent?  As I’ve been wrapping...

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Allowing Relief as Caregivers – by, Becky Henry, CPCC

Allowing Relief as Caregivers – by, Becky Henry, CPCC

Relief can be tenuous, fleeting, temporary, short lived. For family caregivers, the relief of a loved one’s progress alongside the reality of the dangers and problems that still exist can quickly take away the joy of the moment of relief and switch one back to fear. ...

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Imperfect Caregiving, by Becky Henry, CPCC

Imperfect Caregiving, by Becky Henry, CPCC

The title for this could also have been;  “Separating your Child From the Eating Disorder and Not Doing it Perfectly” “Perfection, Vulnerability and Shame, Oh My!” “Parenting our ‘Other”Children During a Child’s Eating Disorder” “Making Mistakes while Parenting a...

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Why Joy, by Becky Henry, CPCC

Why Joy, by Becky Henry, CPCC

Until I became a parent trying desperately to get my child the help needed to survive a life threatening eating disorder, I had no concept of what real sorrow and pain are. Many of you have heard me speak and know my story of not being listened to by so many health...

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Reducing Fear in Parenting – by, Becky Henry, CPCC

Reducing Fear in Parenting – by, Becky Henry, CPCC

No one prepares a parent for watching a child break a dish and then cut themselves with it because they are terrified of eating what is on the plate. No one is there to help them cope in that moment with the terror they are all feeling.  Often parents share harrowing...

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Coping with Life’s Harsh Realities – by, Becky Henry, CPCC

Who knew listening to Chicago Blues could be so healing? Like many of you, I’ve been sitting with the feelings that accompany the passing of a person I care about. About a week ago our friend of over 35 years made a very sudden exit from this planet (it was not Covid)...

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Accepting Realities That Stink – by, Becky Henry, CPCC

Accepting Realities That Stink – by, Becky Henry, CPCC

Part of our ‘Parallel Process’ as a caregiver is to accept some really harsh realities. When a child or other family member has a life threatening illness such as an eating disorder, there are unfortunately so many really unexpected and brutal realities we must...

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Pandemic Brain, by Becky Henry, CPCC

Who else is feeling it? Pandemic Brain seems to have hit me with; total exhaustion, lack of motivation, an underlying sadness and a strange feeling Bill Murray is going to walk around the corner of the kitchen because we’re probably in the movie “Ground Hogs Day” with...

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Wonder Instead of Fear, by Becky Henry, CPCC

Wonder Instead of Fear, by Becky Henry, CPCC

won·der /ˈwəndər/ noun 1.a feeling of surprise mingled with admiration, caused by something beautiful, unexpected, unfamiliar, or inexplicable. "he had stood in front of it, observing the intricacy of the ironwork with the wonder of a child" verb 1. desire or be...

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Calming our Mom Brain – by, Becky Henry, CPCC

Calming our Mom Brain – by, Becky Henry, CPCC

Here in the midst of the holiday season, many of us are having to release expectations of what we’d hoped our holidays might be like prior to Covid-19. It’s more important than ever to work at being calm, grounded and confident.  This is challenging for anyone, and...

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Expanding Hope in the Face of Despair, by Becky Henry, CPCC

Expanding Hope in the Face of Despair, by Becky Henry, CPCC

Somehow we all have this most unusual Thanksgiving behind us. I hope you were able to have some moments of joy and gratitude amidst so much despair around us all. My thoughts are with each of you who felt loneliness, grief and/or despair during this holiday.  During...

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Winds of Change bring Hope –  by, Becky Henry, CPCC

Winds of Change bring Hope – by, Becky Henry, CPCC

Last week I wrote about resilience as we all find ways to cope during this ongoing pandemic and one of the most stressful election seasons many of us have ever experienced. Being a caregiver of a loved one with an eating disorder is extremely stress filled in...

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Struggling and Self Compassion

Struggling and Self Compassion

Even with a pretty conscious self grounding practice, it’s been a challenge to say the least to not be on an emotional rollercoaster this year. Right? We are each struggling in our own ways. For those who follow my work you know I’m constantly beating the drum of self...

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Weight Stigma During Weight Stigma Awareness Week

Weight Stigma During Weight Stigma Awareness Week

On the plus side (see what I did there?) I love irony. 😉  As Maya Angleou said, “When we know better, we do better.” As a teen, I bought the belief that being thin was important and dieting, food restriction and exercise to compensate for what I ate were what I...

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