Summer’s End and What Now for Family Caregivers – by, Becky Henry, CPCC
It’s hard for many of us to admit that summer is coming to an end. Getting ready to leave this idyllic island in the Pacific Northwest is a bit sad. As excited as I am to have several weeks in early fall back in the Twin Cities of Minneapolis and St. Paul to visit...
The Changing Roles of Caregivers – by, Becky Henry, CPCC
As caregivers, we need to be constantly adjusting our sails as we learn what our loved ones need at different stages and often in the same day. This takes a lot of being aware, adaptable and rested. The fear will always be lurking and tempting us to jump onto the...
How Treatment Centers Can Improve Outcomes – by, Becky Henry, CPCC
Yes, we have extremely broken health care systems and insurance systems in the United States. Even with those very broken systems, we can all work together and create improved treatment outcomes. How? For nearly 20 years of coaching family caregivers, I’ve been seeing...
Rest and Restoring in Recovery – by, Intern Anna
Intern Anna is back so I can "rest and reset" myself this summer. Here I am checking out a gorgeous labyrinth on Bainbridge Island. You may have seen my recent piece on rest, and now you can get insights from Anna's perspectives on rest during recovery and you can...
Caregiving and Rest; Why and How – by, Becky Henry, CPCC
If you’re a practical person like me, you’re likely thinking, “Oh sure, sounds good on paper or in a research lab.” Finding time to rest when you’re a caregiver, even if your loved one is away at treatment can feel impossible. And even if one can find time, how do we...
Doing the Grieving When Needed – by, Intern Anna
Intern Anna shares with family caregivers of those with eating disorders, her insights on grieving. There are so many roles that we as the support person of someone with an eating disorder need to fill. Learning to do our own grieving and giving our loved ones space...
Fun, Faith, Freedom, Fotos, Frivolity and Caregiving – by, Becky Henry, CPCC
It turns out that when life is hard (and our world currently is giving us loads of hard on so many levels), the counterintuitive thing might be the best thing. In the hard, sad, hopeless, helpless, scary, frustrating, wrong, deplorable, unethical, we can feel so...
Freedom from Ed – by, Intern Anna
Even though I'm traveling the world as a digital nomad, I'm still working and am so grateful to Intern Anna for helping me out a couple times a month with my newsletter/blog posts. Today Anna is addressing holidays and eating disorders in hopes that you and your...
How Do I Fit Self Care into My Schedule? – by Intern Anna
Thank you to our Summer Intern, Anna for sharing her hard earned wisdom on practicing self care in recovery today. ~ Becky How Do I Fit Self Care into My Schedule? - by Intern Anna I’ve been on a journey to implement more self care into my life. It isn’t easyl. Who...
Fear, Love & Not Enabling – by, Becky Henry, CPCC
Fear is a normal response when a loved one is in crisis. Fear can take away our capacity to engage our wise minds and can spiral us into trying to handle what is not ours to handle. The line between being a supportive caregiver or parent, and enabling a family member...
Fun, Joy & Resilience for Caregivers – by, Becky Henry, CPCC
This past week in our caregiver support group we discussed the role of “fun” in the life of a caregiver. We each bring so many beliefs, expectations and perspectives on caregivers having fun amidst a loved one’s health crisis. Since most of us are not trained to be...
Is Life Like a Box of Chocolates? – by, Becky Henry, CPCC
Thank you to Guest Blogger, Coach Bonnie Olson for contributing this poignant post. Life is so challenging for so many folks on so many levels right now, I wanted to bring some encouragement and hope as well as some insights from a centenarian's success in surviving...
Our Hearts Are Breaking…Again…Still – by, Becky Henry, CPCC
This Memorial Day Weekend, we are coping with intolerable pain, grief, sadness and loss which takes a lot of support and skills. Over the years I have shared many of those coping tools with you dear readers. Today I used the one where you plunge your face into ice...
Balancing Recovery with Life – by, Intern Anna
Summer Intern Anna is back! And she's writing for me two times a month this summer! Enjoy her hard earned wisdom as a person in solid recovery! ~ Becky Balancing Recovery with Life - by, Intern Anna Recovery is so hard. I think I underestimated the amount of...
Social Media and Eating Disorders – by, Intern Anna
Summer Intern Anna is back! And she's writing for me two times a month this summer! Enjoy her hard earned wisdom as a person in solid recovery! ~ Becky How does social media affect you? - by Intern Anna I’m back again on the topic of social media. This past week in my...
Hope for Family Caregivers – by, Becky Henry, CPCC
Happy May Day! After a terrible, horrible, no good, very bad April (yes, it was that bad and I know I'm not alone in this), I'm very happy it is May and my intention is that it will be MAHvelous (thank you Billy Crystal for that word). This is my HOPE. Families with...
Hope in Recovery – by, Becky Henry, CPCC
Celebrating National Month of Hope 🧡 - Finding Hope in Recovery Did you know that April is the National Month of Hope? It serves as the perfect reminder to believe that things will work out, even when it seems like the deck is stacked against you. As I wrote in a...
FEAR: Seven Tips to use NOW as an Eating Disorders Caregiver – by, Becky Henry, CPCC
Parents and other caregivers of those with eating disorders you have so many valid fears to cope with daily. Simply taking the leap to help get a loved one into treatment can bring on so many fears: What modality is best? Which treatment program should I choose? What...
Accepting Our Loved One’s Where They are At – by, Becky Henry, CPCC
Before you pull all of your hair out and scream, “THERE IS NO WAY I’M GOING TO ACCEPT THAT THIS IS WHERE MY LOVED ONE IS AT!” Please read the next sentence as well. When we can lovingly accept our loved one, no matter what awful stuff is happening, WHILE holding onto...
LGBTQ+ Youth and Eating Disorders – by, Becky Henry, CPCC
LGBTQ Health Awareness Week Last week, we celebrated the 20th National LGBTQ Health Awareness Week, which intends to promote mental health and trans health awareness for the LGBTQ community as well as professionals within and allies of the community. This year’s theme...
Being the Change for Eating Disorders – by, Becky Henry, CPCC
“Just Tell Her to Eat a Cheeseburger!" "Well, you know you’re just enabling them right?" "I wish I could become anorexic. I could stand to lose a few pounds." "She is just seeking attention." “Your child doesn’t look like they have an eating disorder.” "It’s not like...
Resilience When the World is Falling Apart – by, Becky Henry, CPCC
When the world is filled with atrocities, pain, suffering, fear and uncertainty it’s hard to keep all the balls in the air. Being a caregiver of a loved one with an eating disorder is extremely stress filled (serious understatement) in ‘ordinary’ circumstances, add...
Stress Antidotes for Caregivers- by, Becky Henry, CPCC
Even if you’re not a family caregiver of someone with an eating disorder, life can be pretty stress-filled right now. We can feel so helpless when others are suffering. There is a way towards having peace and joy even when your loved one is suffering deep in their...
Being the Change – by, Becky Henry, CPCC
Last week you may have noticed there was no newsletter from me…as part of my plan to increase the access for families to more support, I was leading another training of Eating Disorder Caregiver (EDC) Coaches. I’ll be passing most clients onto these new coaches AND...
Three Reasons to set Firm Boundaries AND Enforce Them – by, Becky Henry, CPCC
Boundaries are not cruel, they’re COOL! It doesn’t help family caregivers or their sick child to fall prey to all of the chaos and fear of the eating disorder (ed). We need to live in-tune with our own desires, needs, and feelings. FEAR can lead to SILENCE,...