by Henry Becky | Jun 23, 2019 | Advocacy, Boundaries, Caregiving, Communication, Distress - Yours, Mine and Ours, Eating Disorders Resources, Education, Self Care, Shame, Support, Tools for Caregivers
Parenting kids who have a propensity to feel worthless and unlovable is not easy to say the least. Each week in the online group support that I facilitate we have a topic that we use to illuminate the challenges family caregivers of those with eating disorders are... 
by Henry Becky | Jun 15, 2019 | Caregiving, Education, HUG Kits, Oxygen Mask, Self Care, Support, Tools for Caregivers
Speaking on the phone with a family caregiver the other day talking about their overwhelm and exhaustion, they were telling me that their self-sacrifice was draining. I asked them one of my favorite questions: “How much of your time is spent taking care of you?” They... 
by Henry Becky | Jun 8, 2019 | Caregiving, Distress - Yours, Mine and Ours, HUG Kits, Oxygen Mask, Self Care, Tools for Caregivers
Irony amuses me. Promoting self-care for caregivers is what I do daily. And I give it a valiant effort to walk my talk. Well this past week I was told that even though the respiratory virus I had for two weeks had run its course and I was feeling better, I needed to... 
by Henry Becky | Jun 4, 2019 | Boundaries, Caregiving, Communication, Distress - Yours, Mine and Ours, Eating Disorders Resources, Education, HUG Kits, Oxygen Mask, Support, Tools for Caregivers
Many of us as family caregivers have lived this polarizing, high wire, balancing act of vacillating between hyper-vigilance and being complacent. For the first year or so of being a family caregiver of someone with an eating disorder, the vigilance to keep our loved... 
by Henry Becky | May 9, 2019 | Boundaries, Caregiving, Distress - Yours, Mine and Ours, HUG Kits, Self Care, Support, Tools for Caregivers, Uncategorized
When a family member is diagnosed with an eating disorder and we’re frantically trying to keep them alive and find a good fit for treatment, often the last thing on our minds is setting boundaries to keep them AND us, safe. Most families tell me that they’ve been... by Henry Becky | Apr 26, 2019 | Boundaries, Caregiving, Communication, Distress - Yours, Mine and Ours, Education, Self Care, Support, Tools for Caregivers
Every day in the USA at least 23 people die from eating disorders. Full disclosure, I dislike the term “enabling” a lot. And it is the 8th topic in my HUG Kits because this is a real issue that families are facing. The line between being a supportive caregiver or...