by Henry Becky | Oct 12, 2019 | Caregiving, Distress - Yours, Mine and Ours, Eating Disorders Resources, Education, Hope, HUG Kits, Oxygen Mask, Self Care, Support, Tools for Caregivers
Climbing the long, steep, muddy incline out of a dark, deep abyss first requires one to realize a few key concepts: 1. That one is in fact in an abyss. 2. That being there isn’t serving anyone. 3. That one is worthy of getting out. 4. That there is hope to get out. 5.... 
by Henry Becky | Oct 5, 2019 | Caregiving, Distress - Yours, Mine and Ours, Eating Disorders Resources, Education, Hope, HUG Kits, Oxygen Mask, Self Care, Support, Tools for Caregivers
Families with whom I’ve spoken over the 16+ years of coaching parents & other family caregivers of those with eating disorders have shared that it’s difficult during the journey to have hope. That’s an understatement. Some parents tell me they feel like running... 
by Henry Becky | Sep 29, 2019 | Advocacy, Boundaries, Caregiving, Communication, Distress - Yours, Mine and Ours, Eating Disorders Resources, Education, Health At Every Size, HUG Kits, Oxygen Mask, Self Care, Shame, Support, Tools for Caregivers, Weight Stigma
We often need to hear something several times to truly incorporate the knowledge. And when we are in a fear state due to a child having a life threatening illness, it can take hearing a message many times and many ways to really embrace a strong understanding. This... 
by Henry Becky | Sep 19, 2019 | Caregiving, Distress - Yours, Mine and Ours, Education, HUG Kits, Oxygen Mask, Self Care, Shame, Support, Tools for Caregivers, Treatment
Many family caregivers and/or parents of a child with an eating disorder have shared with me over the past 16 years that there was a point at which they knew their life had to change. Often there are many small moments that have become eerily common and almost feel... 
by Henry Becky | Sep 8, 2019 | Advocacy, Boundaries, Caregiving, Distress - Yours, Mine and Ours, Eating Disorders Resources, Education, HUG Kits, Oxygen Mask, Self Care, Support, Tools for Caregivers, Treatment
Parents and other family caregivers of those with eating disorders often want to give up and/or run away. Anxiety and fear are normal reactions to seeing your child/family member disappear before your eyes. The demands on a family caregiver are so profound I often... 
by Henry Becky | Aug 11, 2019 | Boundaries, Caregiving, Distress - Yours, Mine and Ours, Eating Disorders Resources, Education, HUG Kits, Oxygen Mask, Self Care, Support, Tools for Caregivers
During what feels like a lifetime ago while trying to support a loved one in eating disorder treatment, I had almost no support. It was in the dark ages of treatment research in which parents (especially mothers) were seen as the cause. Not super helpful as you can... 