by Henry Becky | Jun 17, 2022 | Boundaries, Caregiving, Distress - Yours, Mine and Ours, Education, Fear, Hope, Mindfulness, Self Care, Support, Tools for Caregivers
Fear is a normal response when a loved one is in crisis. Fear can take away our capacity to engage our wise minds and can spiral us into trying to handle what is not ours to handle. The line between being a supportive caregiver or parent, and enabling a family member... 
by Henry Becky | Apr 15, 2022 | Boundaries, Caregiving, Distress - Yours, Mine and Ours, Education, Fear, Hope, Joy, Mindfulness, Oxygen Mask, Self Care, Support, Tools for Caregivers
Parents and other caregivers of those with eating disorders you have so many valid fears to cope with daily. Simply taking the leap to help get a loved one into treatment can bring on so many fears: What modality is best? Which treatment program should I choose? What... 
by Henry Becky | Apr 10, 2022 | Advocacy, Boundaries, Caregiving, Communication, Distress - Yours, Mine and Ours, Education, Grief, Hope, Joy, Mindfulness, Oxygen Mask, Self Care, Shame, Support, Tools for Caregivers
Before you pull all of your hair out and scream, “THERE IS NO WAY I’M GOING TO ACCEPT THAT THIS IS WHERE MY LOVED ONE IS AT!” Please read the next sentence as well. When we can lovingly accept our loved one, no matter what awful stuff is happening, WHILE holding onto... 
by Henry Becky | Mar 20, 2022 | Boundaries, Bullying, Caregiving, Communication, Distress - Yours, Mine and Ours, Education, Hope, Mindfulness, Shame, Support, Tools for Caregivers
“Just Tell Her to Eat a Cheeseburger!” “Well, you know you’re just enabling them right?” “I wish I could become anorexic. I could stand to lose a few pounds.” “She is just seeking attention.” “Your child doesn’t look like they... 
by Henry Becky | Mar 12, 2022 | Boundaries, Caregiving, Distress - Yours, Mine and Ours, Education, Grief, Hope, Joy, Mindfulness, Oxygen Mask, Pandemic, Self Care, Support, Tools for Caregivers
When the world is filled with atrocities, pain, suffering, fear and uncertainty it’s hard to keep all the balls in the air. Being a caregiver of a loved one with an eating disorder is extremely stress filled (serious understatement) in ‘ordinary’ circumstances, add... 
by Henry Becky | Feb 6, 2022 | Boundaries, Caregiving, Communication, Distress - Yours, Mine and Ours, Education, Hope, HUG Kits, Joy, Oxygen Mask, Recovery, Self Care, Support, Tools for Caregivers, Treatment
Boundaries are not cruel, they’re COOL! It doesn’t help family caregivers or their sick child to fall prey to all of the chaos and fear of the eating disorder (ed). We need to live in-tune with our own desires, needs, and feelings. FEAR can lead to SILENCE,... 