by Henry Becky | Aug 21, 2022 | Boundaries, Caregiving, College, Communication, Distress - Yours, Mine and Ours, Eating Disorders Resources, Education, Hope, Oxygen Mask, Recovery, Self Care, Support, Tools for Caregivers, Treatment
It’s hard for many of us to admit that summer is coming to an end. Getting ready to leave this idyllic island in the Pacific Northwest is a bit sad. As excited as I am to have several weeks in early fall back in the Twin Cities of Minneapolis and St. Paul to visit... 
by Henry Becky | Aug 5, 2022 | Advocacy, Boundaries, Caregiving, Carolyn Costin, Communication, Distress - Yours, Mine and Ours, Eating Disorders Resources, Education, Fear, Gratitude, Grief, Hope, HUG Kits, Joy, Mindfulness, Oxygen Mask, Self Care, Shame, Support, Tools for Caregivers, Treatment
Yes, we have extremely broken health care systems and insurance systems in the United States. Even with those very broken systems, we can all work together and create improved treatment outcomes. How? For nearly 20 years of coaching family caregivers, I’ve been seeing... 
by Henry Becky | May 1, 2022 | Caregiving, Communication, Distress - Yours, Mine and Ours, Eating Disorders Resources, Education, Fear, Hope, Oxygen Mask, Recovery, Self Care, Support, Tools for Caregivers
Happy May Day! After a terrible, horrible, no good, very bad April (yes, it was that bad and I know I’m not alone in this), I’m very happy it is May and my intention is that it will be MAHvelous (thank you Billy Crystal for that word). This is my HOPE.... 
by Henry Becky | Apr 10, 2022 | Advocacy, Boundaries, Caregiving, Communication, Distress - Yours, Mine and Ours, Education, Grief, Hope, Joy, Mindfulness, Oxygen Mask, Self Care, Shame, Support, Tools for Caregivers
Before you pull all of your hair out and scream, “THERE IS NO WAY I’M GOING TO ACCEPT THAT THIS IS WHERE MY LOVED ONE IS AT!” Please read the next sentence as well. When we can lovingly accept our loved one, no matter what awful stuff is happening, WHILE holding onto... 
by Henry Becky | Mar 20, 2022 | Boundaries, Bullying, Caregiving, Communication, Distress - Yours, Mine and Ours, Education, Hope, Mindfulness, Shame, Support, Tools for Caregivers
“Just Tell Her to Eat a Cheeseburger!” “Well, you know you’re just enabling them right?” “I wish I could become anorexic. I could stand to lose a few pounds.” “She is just seeking attention.” “Your child doesn’t look like they... 
by Henry Becky | Feb 6, 2022 | Boundaries, Caregiving, Communication, Distress - Yours, Mine and Ours, Education, Hope, HUG Kits, Joy, Oxygen Mask, Recovery, Self Care, Support, Tools for Caregivers, Treatment
Boundaries are not cruel, they’re COOL! It doesn’t help family caregivers or their sick child to fall prey to all of the chaos and fear of the eating disorder (ed). We need to live in-tune with our own desires, needs, and feelings. FEAR can lead to SILENCE,... 